多栽花少栽刺 [ㄉㄨㄛ ㄗㄞ ㄏㄨㄚ ㄕㄠˇ ㄗㄞ ㄘˋ; duo1 zai1 hua1 shao3 zai1 ci4] talk nicely and avoid disputes give compliments and not remarks ◄ ►